Flotsam & Jetsam

The Emotional Education Many Men Never Received I think many men grow up emotionally underfed. Not necessarily unloved or uncared for, but emotionally undernourished in ways that often remain hidden until adulthood. Many boys learn early which emotions are acceptable and which are not. Anger may be tolerated. Success admired. Independence encouraged. But fear, tenderness, uncertainty, loneliness and emotional need are often met with discomfort, ridicule, dismissal or silence.

People sometimes ask, “Why would someone go to therapy?” It’s usually said with a hint of suspicion, or maybe fear - as if therapy is only for those who’ve reached breaking point. But the truth is, therapy isn’t just about crisis. It’s about curiosity. It’s about wanting to understand yourself better, to live more freely, and to stop running from the parts of you that keep tugging for attention. Sometimes people go to therapy becau

One of the hardest lessons in becoming a counsellor has been recognising that self-compassion is not optional; it is essential. I...